What is it that we’re all really after?
Success? Sure. Financial freedom and security? You bet. Accolades and approval? Of course.
But what I believe most of us are really after – what truly drives us as human beings – is something less tangible than the things I listed above.
For me, the thing that I really want is peace of mind. And that’s what I am hoping to help you achieve as well.
Creating monetary wealth definitely can help create peace of mind. But there’s more to it than that. Peace of mind is a place of inner calm and tranquility. It is a sense of freedom – when worries, strain or fear aren’t on your mind, and your head, heart and body are content. It is a feeling of wholeness.
As we all know, achieving real peace of mind in our hectic and often overwhelming lives can be very difficult to achieve.
Different people find peace of mind in a variety of ways: meditating, exercising, going to church, gardening, or creating art like painting or poetry. I encourage you to find and nurture the activities and people in your life that help you in your personal quest for inner calm and wellness.
Here are some tips that I hope will be helpful to you in achieving everyday peace of mind:
· Take the time to
breathe, reflect and relax. Even a few minutes a day will make a change in your
life. Meditate, take a walk, take a run, call a friend or parent…whatever
activity that helps you clear your mind and get clarity and perspective.
· If situations
out of your control – such as the typical daily reports on the evening TV news –
upset you and cause negative feelings, direct your attention on things in your
life where you CAN effect positive change.
· Cleanse you
heart: Don't hold grudges. Learn to forgive and forget. Nurturing ill feelings
and grievances hurts you and causes internal stress. There is no benefit to
dwelling on unpleasant memories or past injustices.
· Weed your
garden: Stay away from negative conversations and from negative people.
· Tame the “green
eyed monster”: Don't waste energy being jealous of others and the things and
lives you think they have. Look at
your life as the beautiful, whole and unique gift that it is.
· Don’t sweat the
small stuff: Every day we are faced with countless little annoyances and
irritations: traffic jams, a long and slow-moving line at the “express checkout,”
your computer crashing. If you can take action to avoid these daily
inconveniences, that's great, but otherwise, try to accept them cheerfully. A
bad attitude won’t help anything! By focusing on what you can change, what you
do have control over, you will feel empowered and an inner strength that is the
basis for peace of mind.
· Practice patience and tolerance with people and events.
These ideas and strategies are not necessarily easy to do, nor have I mastered them myself. But by striving to achieve inner peace every day, we will ultimately create more happiness in all aspects of our personal world.
And by creating peace in our personal worlds, we automatically bring it into the external world, which means helping ourselves helps others as well.